Monday, 14 April 2014

WHY SOME STUDENTS FAIL: THE FEAR FACTOR


A student was asked why she failed. She answered, “I failed because I was afraid.” Somebody once defined fear using the acronym FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.
Fear is the feeling you get when you think something bad is going to happen to you. It brings tension, anxiety, and even torment. It can make you unable to articulate what you already know. It can paralyze you, because you already expect the worst to happen. It causes you to be against yourself when nobody is against you.
The Bible helps us to understand that fear is a spirit of bondage and that it is not from God: “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father” (Romans 8:15 KJV). “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV). Elsewhere, the Bible says, “The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion” (Proverbs 28:1 KJV). We do not have the spirit of fear and bondage but of boldness and liberty.
Fear is an evil spirit. It is an enemy to your destiny, because it can make you perform far below your capacity. It takes away your confidence, composure, and courage and turns you into a coward.
The general overseer of Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor E. A. Adeboye, said in one of his sermon, “You can overcome fear by doing what fear asks you not to do.” Now, that is called courage. Disobeying the voice of fear! You can also overcome fear with the Word of God. Faith is the opposite of fear, and faith comes by hearing the Word of God, but when you focus too much on your challenges and your past failures, fear takes root in your heart and rules over your life. It can be seen even in the words you speak, “…for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.”(Matthew 12:34 KJV) But when you mediate on the Word of God and the possibilities that God can bring your way, even in the midst of the challenges, confidence and hope will take root in your heart.
Scriptures like “I can do all things” and “I know the thoughts that I think toward you  are thoughts of good and not of evil”. “You are the head and not the tail”. “And this is the confidence that we have that he that has started a new thing in your life will bring it till the day of Jesus Christ.” And, above all, “all things work together for your good.” You hear that? “All things” not “some things,” not “pleasant things” but all things, for not all good things are pleasurable.
The Bible says that those “who live only for pleasure are spiritually dead” (1Timothy 5:6 TNLT). Fasting is not pleasurable, but it is very profitable to us spiritually, physically, and mentally. Studying is not pleasurable either, but it develops the mind. Fear is capable of truncating your destiny by making you fail even when you are good enough to pass. Therefore, confront it with the Word of God.

FROM


The Perfect Scholar by Jimoh Braimoh (Jr)

Saturday, 5 April 2014

Why Some Students Fail

Failure is the opposite of success. Despite the fact that almost everybody wants to succeed and no one wants to fail, many still end up failing. They fail, not because they are not good enough at what they do or they did not study enough for exams or they did not do what they were supposed to do, but because of some other reasons.
It is vital to point out some facts, especially for those who have experienced failure in different areas, for those on the verge of experiencing it, and those who will eventually experience it. Just because you failed doesn’t mean you are a failure! Failure is nothing but an experience you went through. It is not you, and you are not it. A failure today does not mean that you will never succeed in that thing. So don’t let failure get you down.
The simple fact that people fail when they don’t want to and when they don’t need to makes it imperative to identify some things that lead to failure for us to tackle them, especially in situations where we have done all to succeed.


Some Reasons Students Fail
Fear: A student was asked why she failed. She answered, “I failed because I was afraid.” Somebody once defined fear using the acronym FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.
Fear is the feeling you get when you think something bad is going to happen to you. It brings tension, anxiety, and even torment. It can make you unable to articulate what you already know. It can paralyze you, because you already expect the worst to happen. It causes you to be against yourself when nobody is against you.
Fear is capable of truncating your destiny by making you fail even when you are good enough to pass.
Overconfidence: While fear makes you perform below your capability, overconfidence, which is an excessive trust that you can do something successfully, can make you fail also.
            When you believe too much in yourself, you soon begin to underestimate God and others—even those who are in a position to help you. If you do that, God will no longer be on the scene in your life. Arrogance will become the norm. You will not care about other people’s feelings, thereby hurting them even when you are right. You will become repulsive. Grace will no longer follow you. And you will do things out of context.

Bad omens: This can also be referred to as bad luck or bad company. You almost have no control over this. For example, when the results of a whole class’s exams are withheld because of cheating, everyone who took it—both those who were involved in the cheating and those who were innocent—suffer. Little wonder the Bible says, “Be not deceived; evil communications corrupt good manners” (1 Corinthian 15:33 KJV).
A bad omen situation is something you don’t see coming. It just befalls you when you least expect it.

Anxiety: Anxiety can come upon you when you are worried or uneasy or very eager or in a hurry to answer a question. You become nervous and jittery. The problem is that you lose control. You begin to make unpardonable and unnecessary mistakes—even in a subject area you know well. You will be perplexed at the sort of errors you make just because of anxiety.

Lack of composure: The inability to keep calm is referred to as a lack of composure. It is the feeling you have when you are upset. You are unable to keep your cool.
While anxiety comes on you during a test because you are in a hurry to put down what you know, lack of composure often occurs if you don’t plan your work or prepare for an exam. When you don’t have a worked-out and concise plan for approaching a question or you don’t have enough ideas to develop because you aren't prepared, your composure diminishes, and your work will be disorganized. It will portray that you are confused, because it will lack organization.

Lack of concentration: Most students are easily carried away with what is goings on around them. This causes them to lose focus on their goals, aims, and aspirations.
During exams, students are often distracted by fellow students who ask for their assistance. In the process of trying to help, they abandon their own work. By the time they return to it, their concentration is poor, and they have to try to catch up with where they left off.

Courtesy:
The Perfect Scholar by Jimoh Braimoh (Jr)



This blog post will not be complete without your contribution. Please kindly add any reason why you think some student fail even when they ought not to.

Saturday, 29 March 2014

THE DEAD CULTIST


Cultism is evil, and we all know - even cultists. Yet, why they are in the pool, they cannot tell.

They ran away from home after the battle began. They came back three weeks later. In few minutes, hot bullets were rammed into their heads - three of them, of the same parents.

We all know that he who kills with the sword dies by it still. Whatever we sow, we reap.

The dead cultists have no more gang to rep. They have no clique to hang out with any longer. They have no cult creed to uphold in the grave.

The dead cultists caused their parents nothing but grief, pain and heartache. Purpose terminated!

The dead cultists are nothing but dead men.

Shun cultism!
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Monday, 24 March 2014

MORALITY IN LEADERSHIP


An attempt to define moral leadership becomes an uphill task when what is considered to be moral differs across diverse perspectives or is determined by the society. Thus, what is considered to be moral in one society can be considered to be immoral in another. For example, polygamy is morally accepted in some communities while other communities consider it to be morally unacceptable.
In any case, to define what moral leadership is, I’m of the opinion that we must explore the universal principles that cut across every group, society and culture. Thus, I see the terms ‘moral’ as doing what is good and right and ‘leadership’ as influencing others toward a commonly defined goal. Therefore, moral leadership to me, is the act of influencing others rightly toward a commonly defined goal. To elaborate this definition, I could say it is a process of influencing others toward a commonly defined goal by doing what is right and generally acceptable.
Moral leadership is “influence”
Some say leadership is social influence while others describe it as intentional influence. Even as I would love to agree with these assertions, I believe that moral leadership transcends social and intentional influence.
A moral leader is one who influences and can also be influenced by others. As a result, the arbitrary use and abuse of power is checked. This is what I call ‘influential power’. Such power makes one to step into leadership and then create an enabling environment for others to equally step in and participate. It is opposed to absolute power which is synonymous with tyranny. Thus the phrase ‘leadership is power’ should be substituted with ‘leadership is influential power’. The former connotes application of force to lead while the latter implies use of persuasion and interaction to achieving a common goal.
A moral leader knows that he has been empowered by the whole for the betterment of the whole. So he is to represent others and not manipulate them for selfish aims or for individual interest.
Moral leadership and vision
The Bible says, ‘where there is no vision the people perish’. Moral leadership commands a clear vision, a destination where the whole are headed. Therefore, a moral leader must be able to transmit the vision to his followers, otherwise his inability to do this is in itself immoral.
Human beings are not animals goaded to the market place to be sold or to an abattoirto be slaughtered against their will. A leader’s selflessness and people-oriented vision is tested by his ability to transmit his vision to others in clear terms for their possible acceptance and support.
It is one thing to have a clear, transmissible vision but it’s another to define in clear terms a feasible process and timeframe to achieving the vision. Of what good is it when a leader gives a vision and a timeframe that would transcend his term in office? This is the reason why we have abandoned projects in governance. When a leader does this, the chances are that he really does not intend to fulfil such promises.
During the short reign of President Yar’Adua, his seven-point agenda were made clear to all Nigerians. It was even translated into different indigenous languages. And in clear terms, the process and the timeframe to achieve these goals were stated. This is what I refer to as good leadership. Howbeit, that the cold arms of death did not allow him to finish the good work he started.
Moral leadership as being exemplaryMoral leadership entails making the choice to create desired changes in one’s environment by looking inwardly to exercise the innate and acquired abilitiesthat would bring about such changes. Mahatma Ghandi puts it this way, ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’.
When people see the change they desire in us, then following us comes trustworthily and admirably. Moral leaders know it all starts with them. They lead by example. They also educate others to take their destiny in their hands and join in the process of change by sensitising them on what needs to be done differently to achieve a better result. They do this by appealing to their deepest moral consciousness so as to awaken the will to make that change and to take conscious steps to actualise it.
We must bear in mind that moral leadership is about our inner awareness of good and evil and of the fact that our choice does not require a fire brigade approach but our gradual and conscious effort in the right direction, while envisaging new challenges on the way calling for new approaches to their resolution.
Moral leadership and sacrifice
Being a leader myself, I see sacrifice as an integral part of moral leadership which distinguishes it from other forms of leadership. The moral role of a good leader is coated in the sacrificial service he renders to his followers. Mandela sacrificed 27 years of his life for the cause of freedom. It is unlikely that any sane individual would rather not follow such a seasoned, courageous leader.
Mandela even turned down his right to rule for a second term in office as a mark of his undoubted integrity. Other African leaders who fought in vain for a third term in office and yet others who have manoeuvered their way into being declared life presidents are too numerous to mention. Yet we can’t see significant changes in their society. The fact remains that a good leader doesn’t need a lifetime to make desired changes.
Sacrifice affords a leader the influential power to carry the whole along. He is naturally exposed to two dichotomies: the desire to uphold his own desire even to the detriment of others and the choice to be of service to others in a sacrificial way.
My favourite spiritual and moral leader who was impeccably practical is Jesus Christ, who said “I am the Good Shepherd”. The Good Shepherd puts the sheep before himself, sacrifices himself if necessary. A hired man is not a real shepherd. The sheep means nothing to him... He’s only in it for the money. The sheep don’t matter to him. I don’t think there is any better way to express what the role of sacrifice is in moral leadership than this.
Moral leadership by responsibility
One of the most important substances that makes moral leadership desirable is taking care of responsibility, i.e. being accountable to the whole for one’s actions and decisions. Thus, it becomes disheartening when leaders refuse to accept their faults butwould pass the blame on the opposition.
Responsibility means supporting the whole. It is speaking up for those who are oppressed and can’t speak for themselves. It is influencing others by showing a sincere care for them. As the saying goes, “people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”.
Responsibility in moral leadership is birthed in the desire to step into leadership with the motive to serve others. Anything short of this cannot be considered to be moral. Unless we are committed to thinking about others, we’ll be caught up in the web of self-indulgence and prejudice, none of which are ingredients for good leadership.
A good example of what is meant by taking responsibility can be seen in the action of the young boy in the famous Dutch story, who saved his entire country by putting his finger into a dike. His action was an obvious selfless service to others.
Integration in moral leadership
Integration in moral leadership is about seeking to unite the different factions of the whole. It is opposed to fractional politics where equity, natural justice and good conscience are relegated to the background.
A moral leader seeks to make decisions that will bring every member of the group to seeingoneanother as one people with one vision and one purpose. He doesn’t make decisions to favour his admirers alone to the detriment of those who do not admire him.
What I call a good example of integration is what the leadership in Ghana did to integrate Ghanaians under the leadership of President Kufuor. Every item that shows their differences was removed from their forms and documents. The only thing that was left was nationality. After a while, they all saw themselves as Ghanaians because that was the only thing that mattered.
Also, when I became president of my association, I noticed some rivalry between members. To resolve this, I decided to introduce some activities that will help us to see one another more complementarily than competitively. During these activities there were times when we had disagreements and misunderstandings but we always resolved them internally. In doing this, we almost unconsciously strengthened our bonds through a process of pleasant and unpleasant experiences in reciprocity. And they were made to understand that these experiences are what will make us different from others who we will unavoidably meet for the first time. Apparently, there was a core value implanted in them by that very initiative. This is interestingly the basis of a good human resource management skill which every “moral leader” should unconditionally possess.





Monday, 17 March 2014

THE SCENT OF WATER

I once heard someone say that water is the best medicine. I really didn’t fully grasp the veracity of that statement but now I think I know better. The importance of water to human, animal and plant life cannot be overemphasised. For the significance of drinking water in the right quantity and at the right time can in a long way affect our health.
When you don’t have enough of water in your body, it affects your health. Water is the most important composition of our body. It delivers nutrient to all the cells. It is essential for digestion, absorption and excretion. The human body can exist for five (5) weeks without food for an average person; but can only live for 5 days without water. Our entire body is made up of 60% water, Muscles 75% water, Brain about 75% water, Blood about 82% water, and Bones about 25% water. An average person needs about 12 glasses of water daily (or 2 litres). In plants, there is 70% water in Banana, 80% water in Apple and 95% water in Tomatoes.
The shortage of water in the body can cause, rectal disease; Irritable bowel; Chronic constipation; Varicose veins; Heart disease; High bold pressure; Asthma; Allergies; Hernias; Peptic ulcers: Arthritis; Back and neck pains; Headaches; Memory loss; High cholesterol; Possibly kidney stones. Water is therefore very important for every function of the body since it is related to the flow of blood that brings nutrients, etc to the tissues. The nutrients first go to the vital organs, that is, the brain, heart, kidneys, liver and lungs. Loss of water volume in the cells affects the delivery of nutrients and excreting of waste product. The result of all these is that you have more waste collecting in those cells.
Therefore, to have enough water in your system, take a glass of water when you wake up in the morning, 30 minutes before breakfast take 1 glass of water, 2 hours after lunch take another glass of water, and 30 minutes before lunch take yet again another glass of water. Then, 2 hours after lunch take 2 glasses. 30 minutes before dinner take 2 glasses of water, 2 hours after dinner take 2 glasses and 30 minutes before bedtime take 2 glasses of water.


Wednesday, 22 January 2014

STARTING SMALL


God has an appointed time to visit an individual. May your appointed time bring you utmost joy. In 1Kings 18: 41-45, at the seventh time of intensive prayer, the servant of the man of God saw a small sign in the sky, yet when the rain would fall, it was massive. This simply tells us that whenever God is to do something great, He starts small. Due to lack of understanding of this, many people have missed God’s plan for their lives. They say God told them He was going to use them mightily but they wonder why they are being given very negligible assignments now. They turn down the small assignment and miss the big ones that could have come out of the small. For those who are over selective concerning matters that God has spoken about, please heed this warning. There are small jobs whose assignment in your life is not to give you your desired haven of rest and comfort, but to link you up with the choice job or assignment! Be very careful how you will be assessed on how you handled the smaller jobs or tasks to determine whether you qualify for the big? If you fail in the little, you may be truncated from the big ones.
Zechariah 4: 10 says you should not despise the days you started small. Those in senior ecclesiastical positions today did not get there overnight. They started small and today they have been promoted to where they currently are. The mustard seed is the smallest among seeds yet its tree is a giant. Some people want to start a business but continue to wait until they have a large capital when others have started similar business with a very little amount. Let God begin something great through you. Be ready to start small. Do not be afraid to take that step. Some people who are fighting to get a job where designed not to be employees, but employers of labour. Jobs 8:7 assures you that as long as you are with the Lord, your latter end shall be very great.  
Courtesy open Heaven by Pastor E.A. Adeboye

Tuesday, 14 January 2014

IS PATIENCE STILL A VIRTUE?

Some time ago, I was in a restaurant waiting patiently for my turn, a young lady pressed forward and placed her order. Meanwhile, the waiter was still attending to the person in front of me. Suddenly, the young lady burst into rage, popped her fingers in the air, while rolling her neck and eyes and said to the waiter, “what is the matter with you? What is going on here? Are you not going to answer me or what? Or you want me to leave with my money?”

As she was vibrating, I could feel the heat emanating from her body mixed with the aggression coming from her voice. The waiter, completely taken aback by the sudden outburst of the young lady who was just coming, asked in surprise, “didn’t she come before you?” referring to the person in front of me.

To resolve the insurgence, I added my voice to that of the waiter. I said, with a very soft tongue “she even came before me”. And as the Bible puts it, soft tongue breaks bones. The waiter breathes a sigh of relief and the vibrating young lady mellowed down like a deflating tube. She was immediately humbled and she realised that she was just exhibiting gross impatience. For we came before her and we had every right to leave before her.

After this incidence and a couple of other ones that I’ve seen and I know you must have experienced a couple of such yourself, this question kept coming to me, is patience still a virtue?

This post will not be complete without your input. So please kindly contribute by responding to the question and tell why you think people are no longer that patient. Please no insulting, slanderous, or vulgar comments. For we have all show some level of impatience one time or the other.

Thanks.


Monday, 6 January 2014

WELCOME TO MY BLOG


I wish to adhere to a standard that profess my personal faith in Jesus Christ in all the subject matter that I’ll be developing in this blog. I intend to be true: i.e. to be authentic and correspond to reality, noble: promote content that motivate people and call for their best qualities, just: righteous or consistent with the commandment of God and godly living, pure: i.e. chaste, modest, clean and to correct the current trends of sexualizing everything, lovely: the contents on this blog must be aesthetically pleasing and beautiful, of good report: it shall be commendable or of high reputation, virtuous: it’ll promote high values and praiseworthy: the contents shall be recommendable to family members or friends with the confidence that they will be built up and grateful that they took the time to read and enjoy it. Please ensure that you conform to these standards as you contribute by adding your posts.
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